The 1959 Illinois State University sociology professor was quoting a 'Family Relationship' research study when he said, "It's likely healthier for a married couple to visit their respective parents no more than twice a year." His comment seemed to fly in the face of the long-standing African proverb, "It takes a village to raise a child." And if you please, how about Biblical scripture, which suggests the same in Ecclesiastes 4:9, "Two are better than one....if either of them falls down one can help the other up."
On a personal note, I am without question a product from 'a village.' That said, through the years increased family mobility became a game changer along with the more permissive parenting attitude perpetuated by Dr. Spock. I grew up wanting to please my parents; not sure the youngsters today embrace that mission. In fact, I sense the pleasing-thing has flipped; parents bust their butts trying to make things smooth, easy and enjoyable for their children.
Parents and preachers of my youth spoke of ' Hell-to-Pay' consequences. Youth today are less concerned about a result or effect from their actions or behavior. And nobody goes to a church to hear a pastor preach hell-fire-and-damnation when you can stay home, kick back in your easy chair and listen to 'feel good' fella, Joel Olsteen.
Ah, I'll stop there, I'm beginning to sound like a grumpy old eighty year old fart. I am glad I see my kids more than twice a year!
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